LUST AND LOVE; A CONFUSION THAT PLAGUES US



Many youths today in fact 70% of youths don't know how to differentiate between love and lust. They claim to know the difference but still they fall into the issue of mistaken identity again. Very few know the true meaning of love and as such it has been abused up to the point of almost losing its value. There's an old adage that says when the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable. Today guys/ladies say I love you without really meaning it. They say it to satisfy their lustful desires and as such ladies have learnt how to play along. A guy says 'I love you to a girl and she just scoffs while a lady says the same and the guy starts wondering if she's  after his money. No one is ready to entirely trust the other party and if things continue this way then the real meaning of love will be lost on us.

They are numerous definitions of love as everyone tends to define love based on his/her understanding, but lets look at what the bible has to say about it because that's the only true definition of love. In 1 Corinthians 13, Paul gave a list of the things that should classify love. If you claim to be in love and you don't portray these things or if your partner claims to love you and he doesn't show this fruits, then there is no love. According to the bible, love is patient, fruitful, kind, protecting and hopeful. Love never fails even though things get hard. Love is not self-centered. When you're in love, you consider the desires of your partner before your own.

Now what is lust? The bible also says a lot about lust, mostly in the book of proverbs. Lust is selfish. It is being with your partner just to satisfy your sexual desires. Lust never ends well because it comes mostly from a sinful heart and has selfishness, disrespect and lack of self-control as its foundation. It involves putting your desires first without giving a second thought to the person your lusting after. It breeds lies and deceit and a relationship based on lust will not lead to anything.

Love is very different from lust; in love your heart sees the other person as your focus while in lust your heart sees yourself as your focus. True love is driven by a godly desire to provide for, to nurture and care for another person’s needs while lust seeks to satisfy your own sinful sexual passions. Remember God is love and for you to truly love, you must have him in you.

So ask yourself today; are you in love or in lust? Do you have the creator of love in you?  Are you selfless towards your partner or selfish towards them? Answer these questions truthfully and you will know which of them best classifies  your relationship.

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