Deal with your anger before it deals with you



Dwelling in anger is terrible; allowing anger in the form of what we call 'hot temper' to control you is even worse. You have every right to get angry every now and then, after all you’re human. But the problem starts when you allow your anger to override your sense of reasoning and becomes really serious when you can't stop yourself from acting rashly on the slightest provocation. The bible advice's us on anger in Ephesians 4: 26-27.

The results of acting rashly when angry are too severe for you to continue living in anger. A lot of marriages have crashed, loving partner turned abusive all because of anger. Having self-restraint is very important. Most times, you tend to regret your rash actions after you've calmed down. If you find yourself in this kind of situation, don't lose hope. You can still deal with that hot temper of yours and be free if you are ready to take the outlined necessary steps.

·         Be genuinely born again: This is the primary and most important step in curbing your anger. The fact that you go to church every Sunday does not make you a born again child of God. To be born again means to believe Jesus Christ died for your sins, to ask him to come into your heart and be the lord over your life and to decide to serve him for the rest of your life. It may seem really simple, but it’s a great mystery. The bible says once you are born again the old you passes away and you become a new man/woman. It means that the old you with hot temper issues has passed away and in his place is a man that has the Holy Spirit to help him in time of weakness (anger).
·         Acknowledge your anger; admit that you have anger issues. When someone offends you, don't just keep everything locked away and pretend to be fine. If you can, talk to the person who offended you after you have calmed down.
·         Seek professional help; engage the services of a counselor or you talk to a senior/trusted friend about your issue. They say a problem shared is a problem half solved. Don't feel ashamed about it, everyone has a weakness and yours happens to be anger.
·         Consciously hand over your anger issue to God in prayers; tell your father your problem and ask him to help you. The bible says his strength is made perfect in our weakness. Remember when you ask, believe he will do it. Matt 21; 21-22. Keep asking until you realize that anger no longer has a hold over you.
·         Restrain your anger; this may seem hard but it’s very important. Don't allow your anger to consume you and make you act without thinking. Set up ground rules that can guide your actions whenever you are angry. Instead of yelling, hitting and thrashing when you get angry, why not walk away and take some minutes to calm down. Also thinking of what Jesus would do if he were in your shoes can help you restrain yourself. Remember as Christians we are to act and be like Christ.

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